Think like a Woman... Act like a Lady

Being a gentleman isn't always easy. In an era of social networks, it's easy to become target practice for people who generally have very little to lose and could care less about your feelings or reputation. When dirt is thrown on your name, one generally wants to fight fire with fire.

My "Silent Assassin" blog tackles this somewhat but I feel the need to get a tad bit more specific and make this a gender related issue.

We live in an era where very few women praise one another. I often hear women say that they can only chill with dudes because chicks have issues, girls are bitches, etc. My female friends will always point out other females who are supposedly throwing daggers with evil mean muggs. I always ask if this is not perhaps a reciprocated reaction based a dual exchange of evil looks? The answer is still pending.

Why don't women like each other? My theory goes...

We live in an era where the female icons are the Kardashians. This is in no way disrespect to the Kardashians, but basically we forget that it's only entertainment and reality TV is about as real as a R300 note. We act as though we know these people, we only know edited versions of what they allow us to see.

So what's my point? Point is, our generation is fake... it's so fake that we live beyond our means. Women hate on each other because instead of wanting to be the owners of businesses, they would rather be the flyest chick in the club. If you asked most ladies under 25 if they would rather be Oprah or one of the Kardashians, I think Miss Winfrey would struggle.

Again, what's my point? My point is, when you bicker over small shit, you breed a generation that steadily decreases in ambition. Looking good is great, but it should be for you... not to style on another female. I mean we've all seen what happens when two women are rocking the same dress... you'd swear she farted in your face... immediate hate and conflict.

I genuinely believe that the hate between women is ugly and deep-seeded. You women are very cruel to each other and it's sad to see.

Some of you hate each other to the point that to will lay with a man that you aren't even attracted to in order to 'show' each other... it's unladylike. You both lose... he might lose both of you but as unfair as it is, men can always make a comeback.

Ladies... stop judging each other, especially when your judgement is hypocritical. You can't act a certain way and then judge another woman for the same behaviour... you shouldn't judge at all.

Ladies... mind your own business, praise each other and keep it ladylike.

I will be

We at work

So the first quarter has been strong for the Showlove camp. We have two weekly events... "The Warm Up", Fridays at Mibar from 6pm brought to you by Grey Goose.

Sundays we have the biggest weekly event on our shores with "All Love Sundays" at Icon from 7pm brought to you by Miller Genuine Draft.

We've branched out into the world of comedy and now "Tuesday Comedy Nights" at Metro,Benmore Shopping Center hosted by Loyiso Gola and brought to you by Play Energy drink.

We love what we do and this week also sees the return of "Showlove Dimes" in two cities, Cape Town the love lands on Thursday and our playground is 169 on Long Street... let's go ladies.

Jhb, the love returns on Friday at Icon... word to the ratio.

Silent Assassin

Knowing when to walk away and knowing when to be quiet are attributes that I've only recently figured out. Silence is a weapon... a deadly one at that. The ability to keep your mouth shut keeps your foes guessing. Validating yourself or seeking it doesn't work... actions really do speak louder.

When I was at Wits, we had a section called "Strategic Thinking" under my International Relations course. Now a lot of the theory had to do with wartime tactics... art of war shit. The strategy behind defeating an opponent has very little to do with aggression, it's more about keeping them guessing and when aggressive... controlled aggression.

When you are loud and threatening regarding your next move, then there can never be an element of surprise. The best thing you can do is seem defeated and a lull of sorts. Let them be arrogant enough to forget about you.

Silence drives an opponent crazy, they rack their brains wondering what your next move is, wondering if they missed it, they out there going through your timeline searching for clues and subliminals.

The ability to keep your cards close will also save you from snitches... remember some people don't even snitch on purpose or with malicious intent... they simply talk too much. It can be your partner, boy, girl, employee, etc... sometimes they brag on your behalf or they feel the need to defend you when others belittle what you do. Give them the smarts for the cause... the team requires discipline.

I'm of the theory that by the time cats see the moves, it has to be too late. Their cage has to be so hectically  rattled, that they're even willing to change their plan in order to catch up or adjust... this is why sound moves get traced... dudes don't have faith in their own plan.

Stick to your script, keep your script in the vault and when you launch... make it a motherfucken blockbuster.

All love.